Alan Jacobs11 Recommendations Falmouth Mediation Falmouth, MA United States
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Description of Practice
Specializing in Divorce Mediation. Let me help you protect your rights and tailor an agreement specific to your family's needs while saving you time and money. Falmouth Mediation is a full-service, client-centered mediation practice specializing in divorce mediation. My goal is to help make divorce, one of the most difficult life transitions, an easier, more peaceful process for everyone involved. I am passionately committed to making divorce as easy and harmonious as possible for couples who are receptive to working together.
I assist couples and families making the difficult life transition of divorce as a private mediator through Falmouth Mediation, MWI, and in the Barnstable and Nantucket County Courts with Cape Mediation. As the founder of Falmouth Mediation, I bring over 25 years of experience helping individuals and organizations resolve conflict. I professionally trained with MWI (formerly Mediation Works, Inc.) of Boston in 1997 and later with Cape Mediation. I have also completed advanced Divorce Mediation Training and the Barnstable County Bar Association's Family and Probate Conciliation Training. Through my relationships with MWI, Cape Mediation, and adjunct professionals on the Upper Cape, I work in partnership with other experienced mediators and experts with diverse backgrounds including legal proficiency in family law, divorce, litigation and probate matters, accounting and tax advising, financial planning, real estate, business evaluation, and mental health counseling to help my clients make their own responsible decisions to resolve matters and find the best solution for all concerned. I hold a Masters of Education and a Masters of Regional Planning from the University of Massachusetts and have had special training as a Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming. I am a third-degree black belt in Tang Soo Do and teacher at the Seven Stars Academy of Martial Arts and am on the Board of Directors of the Falmouth Education Foundation and the Falmouth STEM Boosters. I am a former member and Chair of the Falmouth School District's School Committee. I moved to Falmouth in 1974 were I still live with my wife and son.
As the founder of Falmouth Mediation, I bring over 25 years of experience helping individuals and organizations resolve conflict. I professionally trained with MWI (formerly Mediation Works, Inc.) of Boston in 1997 and later with Cape Mediation. I have also completed advanced Divorce Mediation Training and the Barnstable County Bar Association's Family and Probate Conciliation Training.
MWI (Formerly Mediaiton Works Inc.)
Advanced Divorce Mediation Training
Barnstable County Bar Association's Family and Probate Conciliation
Mediation Approach & Philosophy
Divorce can be one of the most difficult times in your life. You are going through a total upheaval that affects nearly every part of your day-to-day existence. It’s disorienting to have everything suddenly uncertain. It can be hard to think clearly, understand how things will affect you in the long run, and know what questions to ask in order to get the information you need. Whether you want the divorce, are opposed to it, or really don’t know what you want right now (which is not unusual), you’re probably worried about your financial security, your children, and your entire life plan. A divorce is a major change and has the added double whammy of being not only a complicated emotional transition, but also a detailed legal proceeding. It’s natural to feel a bit lost, confused, angry, hurt, and sad all at once as you try to come to grips with your situation and work through everything that must be done. Most individuals do not have the specific knowledge necessary for making fully informed decisions about the financial and legal aspects of divorce. I will provide you with the information that is required to reach the best settlement for your particular situation and we can draft a divorce agreement that is acceptable to the court and insure that your interests and goals are reflected in that settlement. Further, even in the best of circumstances, the end of a significant relationship involves such intense emotions that it is difficult for two people to resolve issues on their own. I allow each person to have their feelings, without those feelings spilling over and jeopardizing your ability to reach fair agreements. The reality of a divorce court trial is that most litigants walk out of the courtroom feeling as if they have just been run over by a truck. The winner often finds his or her enthusiasm dampened by the warning they hear from their lawyer to prepare for the next legal round, when their soon-to-be-ex-spouse will appeal the judge’s decision. An appeal means another trial, more money, and, of course, the emotional trauma that seems to have no end. In a mediated divorce you and your spouse make the final decisions and have the security of a professional who will look out for your best interests. If you and your spouse could benefit from structured assistance in making decision during your divorce, contact Falmouth Mediation for a free, no-obligation, private, confidential consultation. I will be happy to discuss the key details of your situation, address any concerns and help you decide if divorce mediation would be beneficial.
Representative Cases Handled as a Mediator
All divorce mediation cases are strictly confidential. I have mediated short and long term marriages, including parenting plans, child support, asset & liability division, and property division. I have also mediated same-sex marriages and cases with and without attorneys present.
Complex Case Experience
I have mediated high conflict divorce, family and parenting cases and cases involving substance abuse and domestic violence.
The time and expense involved in reaching a fully-informed and durable separation agreement depends on several factors. In most cases you will find that mediation costs a fraction of what it would cost to hire two attorneys and engage in a protracted and acrimonious divorce. Mediation costs are billed at an hourly rate. The hourly shared charge is the total fee for both parties. Because you are hiring one professional instead of two, and because the process is direct and efficient, the cost of a mediated settlement will usually be substantially less than hiring two separate attorneys. No fee is charged for the no-obligation, private consultation after which we determine whether all parties want to proceed. We do not charge retainers and no charges will be incurred without prior agreement. A sliding scale, determined by your combined gross income and net worth, is available.
What My Clients Say - https://www.falmouthmediation.com/what-clients-say-1
"Alan, I just wanted to touch base and let you know how much your assistance was appreciated in our recent divorce mediation. I knew what we wanted to do, I saw your website and knew that mediation was the best way for us to go. You made the process very seamless and your knowledge to help guide us through the process was excellent. After just a few short visits you had the paperwork done and we were on are way. I couldn't believe how fast it all happened. I can't thank you enough and would highly recommend mediation with you without any hesitation."This testimonial was reported by Alan Jacobs on behalf of M.J., Bourn, MA., 2019
"When my ex husband and I divorced, it was a mutual decision. There was no fighting and arguing over material items. We didn't want or need lawyers; we simply wanted someone knowledgeable, understanding, and neutral to guide us through the process. Alan was all of those things and more. My divorce should make history for how smooth the process has gone with no issues. Alan ensured we were prepared, understood, and okay throughout the process. Not only was having a mediator more personable of a process, but the cost was also more reasonable and, unlike a lawyer, a mediator is more knowledgeable in a variety of areas that are a frequent concern in this situation. I highly recommend trying to use a mediator if you are in the process of divorce and I wouldn't use anyone but Alan Jacobs. Thank you Alan!"This testimonial was reported by Alan Jacobs on behalf of K.M., Hyannis, MA., 2019
"Alan cost effectively helped us to negotiate a complex divorce settlement with minimal stress and waste. The result was an amicable agreement which left us on speaking terms rather than the hostility which normally ensues from a divorce. Thankfully, we were able to go on with our individual lives and continue to invest in our children's education rather than the children of several lawyers. Thank you, Alan"This testimonial was reported by Alan Jacobs on behalf of E.C., East Falmouth, MA., 2019
“Alan’s demeanor and knowledge made a difficult process easier and less painful. Initially we thought that we would handle everything ourselves. But, for a mortgage application my spouse needed documentation showing that a separation procedure was in progress. We asked Alan to assist. He guided us through procedures and paperwork, did the official paperwork promptly, and smoothed everything considerably. I’m glad we went to him and I’m grateful for his help."This testimonial was reported by Alan Jacobs on behalf of S.M., Pocasett, MA., 2019
“From the very beginning, when I called you, you were clear and concise regarding what needed to be done, what the cost would be, and why, in our case, it made much more sense to go through mediation rather than through a lawyer, as it was an amicable divorce. Each time we met with you, you were again, very clear and concise and made sure that we mutually understood everything that was being done, what we had to do, etc. You prepared us totally for our court hearing and it went as smoothly as you indicated it would. In the event of my knowledge of anyone seeking mediation, I would highly recommend you. Your professionalism, demeanor and clarity were exemplary.”This testimonial was reported by Alan Jacobs on behalf of A.C., Rehoboth, MA., 2019
“Alan is resourceful, intelligent, and well-mannered, with a true professional affect. I highly recommend him to anyone.”This testimonial was reported by Alan Jacobs on behalf of D.C., Falmouth, MA., 2019
“We could not have done it without your assistance – we actually held hands through the entire divorce proceedings and the judge commented that he wished that all of his divorces went as well!”This testimonial was reported by Alan Jacobs on behalf of M.C., Sandwich, MA., 2019
“I deeply respect and admire Alan for his honesty, candor, decisiveness, sense of humor, and his attention to individuals’ needs. Alan has the innate ability to think “outside the box” and analyze a situation from various viewpoints. He would encourage critical thinking and illuminate ideas by asking thought-provoking questions. That style really brought out the best in us as there was a tremendous amount of respect and trust that guided us to make the right decisions and develop creative ways of solving issues.”This testimonial was reported by Alan Jacobs on behalf of K.L., Falmouth, MA., 2019
"My former Husband and I were both interested in achieving a fair resolution to the end of our marriage. As a gay couple, we were unsure about trusting a non-gay person with intimate and financial details about ourselves. Alan, with his complete non-judgmental attitude as Mediator helped us reach this goal by his thoughtful and thorough questions that we either had or had not considered. Under Alan's direction and guidance, our divorce was easily processed through the legal system by our own submission of the legal papers prepared by Alan, and by our appearance without lawyers before the Judge at our court date. The cost was negligible in comparison to estimates we were quoted by divorce attorneys. Our experience with Alan provided us with an equitable solution to splitting assets acquired before and during a long relationship. Thank you, Alan.”This testimonial was reported by Alan Jacobs on behalf of C.K., Taunton, MA., 2019
“My ‘ex’ and I were very impressed with the guidance and efficiency offered by Alan. We were able to meet at times that were convenient for us, and the documents produced were flawless so that the rocky road we were going down didn't seem so rocky. We commend Alan for helping out couples like us who are going through a rough time, and for making such an experience less tragic, both financially and emotionally. Thank you!”This testimonial was reported by Alan Jacobs on behalf of J.A., East Falmouth, MA., 2019
"I found Alan to be extremely professional, completely unbiased, and knowledgeable. He did an excellent job at walking us through the process, setting expectations, and providing a great deal of flexibility. I found the mediation process with Alan to be very efficient, timely, and very cost effective."This testimonial was reported by Alan Jacobs on behalf of S.J. North Falmouth, MA., 2019