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Description of Practice
I conduct complex mediations between individuals and groups. I facilitate multi-stakeholder conflict engagement processes. I often work in cases where others have given up. I specialize in participatory and empowering processes.
I am a seasoned mediator. For more than three decades, I have intervened, taught and trained thousands of people around the world. I support clients to view conflict as a mirror. We explore "Why is this conflict so important to me/us?" and "Why to him/her/them?" Through gazing in this mirror with my support, people I work with often gain meaningful insight about their own goals and values that are at stake in their conflict situation. In this way, usually through coaching of each side separately and guiding sides’ in to dialogue together, I have a long and successful track record in supporting people to learn meaningfully about themselves and others. When conflicts are so constructively engaged, disputants become learners and conflicts become opportunities for discovery. This often leads to new beginnings. A metaphor for my type of mediation is mid-wifery. My intellectual and action-research focus, which I have always pursued with an eye for continuously improving my own practices and those in the field, is in issues of Identity-Based Conflict and Cooperation. I have devoted my career to mediating, teaching, researching, writing, giving seminars and workshops around the globe in the art and science of creative conflict engagement. I am the President of the ARIA Group, Inc. (www.ariagroup.com). As reflective practitioner, I am the author of dozens of journal articles about conflict resolution and participatory evaluation and of five books, including most recently, From Identity-Based Conflict to Identity-Based Cooperation (Springer, 2012) and Re-Envisioning Conflict Resolution: Vision, Action and Evaluation in Creative Conflict Engagement (Routledge, 2017).
30 years experience across 20 countries: *Coaching individual leaders *Mediating between individuals and groups stuck in destructive conflict cycles *Facilitating within and between groups seeking to work better together
Trained as mediator and facilitator
Trained in small group dynamics
Trained in organizational consulting
Trained in international conflict resolution
Mediation Approach & Philosophy
Conflicts, like fire, can warm or burn. Create or destroy. The more heat; the more light. My job is to help clients i. redevelop their own voice and confidence in a conflict situation; ii. listen and speak effectively with oneself and others; iii. engage conflicts creatively so new beginnings can be born. I serve as a trust-bank for my clients; they deposit some of their sacred trust in me, I return it with "interest" (e.g. satisfaction, renewal, voice, confidence, imagination).
Representative Cases Handled as a Mediator
Mediating between divorced couples who have had ongoing conflicts in their post-marriage relationship (especially dealing with children). Mediating between founders and successors in family businesses. Coaching leaders - individually and in teams - to gain a better handle on specific conflict situations as a lens for learning and improving their conflict handling capacities afterwards. Mediating between battling leaders in organizations who were undermining each other and team morale and helping them convert this in to change and development for themselves and system. Facilitating within and between groups identity groups (e.g police and community; Israelis and Palestinians) seeking to work better together, instead of at cross purposes.
Complex Case Experience
Special Master for US Federal Judge after race riots in Cincinnati, Ohio - see http://www.socsci.uci.edu/~pgarb/istudies/applied/presentations/site/presentation.html Have worked in conflict and its creative engagement in Jerusalem for years. Currently "Action Evaluator" to "Bottom Up Visions for the Future of Jerusalem" Project; and "Vision Consultant" to Kids4Peace, Jerusalem. Currently advising US college president in dealing constructively with multiplicity of conflicts and stakeholders. Facilitated interventions, taught and trained in complex identity-based conflicts (i.e. racial, ethnic, national) in the US, Canada, S. America, Europe, Africa, ME, Asia.
Range $200-$450 per hour
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I live in the US and in Jerusalem. I serve clients in the US, Israel and throughout Europe. I work in person and also via skype.
I have worked with Jay Rothman on a variety of intense conflict resolution projects over the past 25 years. Jay is an extremely capable mediator, facilitator, teacher and researcher. He is highly effective at working with disputants to address the genuine sources of their conflict and to avoid the temptation to settle for superficial solutions that will be neither durable nor effective. He is committed to a highly ethical approach to intervention that respects the autonomy, integrity, and long term needs of those involved in a dispute.Bernie Mayer , 2018
Tareq and I were so lucky to have the opportunity to work with Jay. He not only helped us engage in our work and manage conflicts in our team, but helped give us the tools to continue to practice positive conflict engagement after we finished our sessions with him. The ripple effect of his work is long lasting. Thanks so much Jay.Meredith Rothbart , 2018
I heartily recommend Jay Rothman to you. He was my Special Master for a year before, during and after the unrest/race riots in Cincinnati, Ohio in 2001. He masterfully helped put together and guided a tremendously complex city-wide participatory and multi-stakeholder group process which eventually included 3,500 participants. This unprecedented process helped to pave the way for one of the most significant policing reforms in the United States. In addition to his design and facilitation of this process, he was constantly mediating between the highest civic and political leaders and a wide array of citizens. He kept his cool even when folks around him were heated and antagonistic. In short, Jay helped me and my legal team and the entire city transform itself.Susan Dlott , 2018
Jay Rothman has been a pioneer in the practice of mediation for more than three decades, bringing an incredible breadth of experience and wisdom to his practice. I've known Jay over the past ten years and am continuously inspired by his dedication, integrity and experience. Whether looking for someone to facilitate a mediation or peace process or to support organisations and agencies in the field, Jay is someone who can engage to bring the best of what this field can offer. I highly recommend him and would encourage agencies, organisations and practitioners in the field as well as parties in conflict looking for effective solutions to reach out to Jay for the support he can provide.Kai Brand-Jacobsen , 2018